Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Black Friends

I just got done reading this very interesting article on the GQ website that dealt with racial diversity in one's social circle. Specifically the article was about a certain editor of the magazine that had posted a bulletin on Craigslist.com advertising for a black friend.
The obvious references to the sexual connotations that might be transcribed from the title of the post aside, he went on to describe the responses he received and the actual meetings he had with the people who did respond.
The whole process, he retells, began at a party when one of his two black friends was unable to make it, thus cutting the number of black friends he had by half. He was struck by the fact that if just one of those two guys moved away or stopped liking him, he would only have one friend of color.
At this point in the article he asks the reader to consider his own situation. How many black friends do you have? This might not be something that you think about often, or ever even, but really, how many black friends, or just friends of a different ethnic background do you have?
This situation had an even deeper layer for me because of my specific situation. I am a Mexican guy who grew up in Mexico, with Mexican friends and a very tight relationship with my Mexican family, but who, by various twists in fate, is now living in a dominantly white city and hangs out mainly with white friends.
Now, it's not all that stark for me, I do have plenty of Mexican friends back in Huntsville, where I'm from, and I do still talk to my family in Mexico, but all of my best friends are white. Is that even weird? I don't know.
The point is, For a society that prides itself being a very accepting nation with peoples of all cultural, religious, and racial, backgrounds that are judged not by these standards but rather by the worth of their personalities and work ethics, we as individuals are not living up to the dream.
I mean, we just voted a black man into office as the leader of our nation and most of us don't even have a single black friend.
Just something to consider.

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